Getting angry is an emotional feeling that we all experience at some point in our lives, let’s face it, even a baby will show angry in the early days of life. So I guess that anger is hard-wired into us from the beginning. That said, what is its purpose? Is it a form of self-healing? After getting angry, you release all the pent-up tension, this can make you feel cleansed in a weird way. Then you feel sorry or guilty if you have hurt someone and then if the anger is unresolved you have an argument in your head and that leads to frustration.
What Is The Cause Of Your Anger?
You may think that others have led you to the point of getting angry because it is a demonstration of how you are feeling inside, no big surprise there! But what if your anger is deep unresolved issues that you have never dealt with. As I said before a baby can get angry, it will go through different emotions, just as you would before you get really angry. This can be stress, hurt, frustration, anxiety etc and you begin to seeth, then you blow your top, so to speak.
Making Baby Quiet.
Have you noticed how quickly we are to calm down a baby, child or adult if they start to show signs of crying, upset, aggression and so on? How do we do this? By pacifying that child with a dummy, bottle, food, toys, hugs, rocking and so on? Later we use smoking, alcohol, drugs, more food or consumerism. There are practical reasons like feeding and changing a baby, but what if the separation of that child going into its own room was one of the causes…
We are separated at birth, then into our own bedroom, from our childhood toys, from home by going to school, we are forever being separated as we grow up. We are separated by people and loved ones that die. And yet we are taught not to lose anything as we must keep things safe, such as your gloves that get sewn into your coat etc… This is why we panic when we mislay things, such as car keys or mobile phones etc…
It makes sense that we should feel angry, but are we not just feeling hurt as we are not only being separated but feeling the lack of love. But when we are given love, it can be hard to accept it as it is laid on all the bad feelings that keep surfacing.
What Is The Answer?
I think the only real way is to minimise separation as separation comes when a child wants to leave home, rather than being made to leave. But all the time love can help and if a baby needs to cry and let out any hurt, let it happen. You know yourself that after a good cry you feel better, but if someone keeps stopping you from crying, then you never feel the relief.
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Philip has been a full-time Hypnotherapist in Walsall since 2004 as well as using Psy-Tap, Eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing (EMDR), Transactional Analysis TA & MPNLP Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Also a Child Therapist & Advance Clinical Hypnotherapist.
Uniquely-equipped for analyzing sheep in Birmingham. Spent high school summers merchandising wooden trains in the UK. Had some great experience deploying jigsaw puzzles worldwide.